Every year, when people think of the Mother's Day or Father's Day, there is seem like no special celebration for them, generally everyone will just organise a dinner in the restaurant wit their parents. This year, I promise to bring my parents to Macau and Hong Kong for the celebration. Regrading to this This trip, I am a little ashamed, because I couldn't 100% paying for the entire trip for them, because all these years I had been spending on the Chinese Medicine course, and now I am just starting my own acupuncture business, really need some money for cash flow.
不过，我还是希望亲自带他们去旅行。母亲天生热爱出国旅行，这次的旅程对她而言，只不过是另一次的出游罢了，但是对没有太多出远门经历且胆怯的父亲来说，这个澳门及香港之旅是他一生中最想去的地方，他很想见识一下那个与我们同样都是姓〝何〞的赌王的赌场；再说，他也想体会一下港剧里的香港人的生活文化，还有那些蔡澜在节目里介绍的香港美食。这次的旅程唯一的独特之处是--父亲将有机会在香港过生活，而且又是一个由我筹划的自由行，应该十分难以置信吧！
However, I still wish to bring them for visiting Macau and Hong Kong personally. My mother has a hobby of travel abroad, through out her experiences of travel to many countries, this trip is just another travel for her. For my father, he doesn't have much travel experiences in his life, but this time he is really interested on Macau and Hong Kong, these are the places that he dreams of wanted to visit one day. For instance, he want to know how casino Lisboa look like, because he always feel so proud about Stanley Ho, the founder of Casino Lisboa, may be because our family name is also "Ho". As for Hong Kong, he is a big fan of Hong Kong Cantonese drama series for more than 20 years, of course he is very curious about the Hong Kong culture and lifestyle. Besides that, he also watched some of the Hong Kong Cuisine TV program by Gourmet -- Mr Chua Lam, he also wish to try to visit some of the Hong Kong restaurants which is promoted by Mr Chua Lam. The best part of this trip is - my father will have the opportunity to experience the fast paced Hong Kong city life, and this is also an unbelievable task for me to plan the entire trip.
我的父亲是个很可爱的人，他在社会上可能只是一个小人物，，这30多年来，他什么工作都做过，什么气也受过，他只靠着一份微薄的薪水养活我们一家四口。父亲是个自信心不强的人，他不喜欢与人竞争，他不喜欢压力的生活，但是常常把不必要的压力放在自已的肩膀上。
My father is a very lovely person, he may be just a normal person who pay a small role in this society. But one thing for sure, he is someone who had been working so hard for more than 30 years, in order to feed a family of four. My father is a person who is very low self esteem, he does not like to compete with others, he did not like the stress from life, but he often putting unnecessary pressure on his own shoulders and he usually won't let us know what is in his mind.
父亲很怕死，当我介绍他观赏「OKURIBITO」(入殓师)这部日本电影时，他还说这种〝大吉利是〞的电影还是不看为妙。这些年来，公公、婆婆、二伯、小叔、舅娘因病相继去世也让他陷入不安当中，他经常怀疑自已是否身患重病，也害怕一觉不醒就去了。虽然我现在是医生了，但是治疗心病还是有一定的难度。所以我才想带他出门旅行，希望透过旅行解开他的心结，让他从此比较开朗。
My father was afraid of death, and when I introduce him to watch a Japanese film -- "OKURIBITO" (Departures) , he refused to watch this film, I guess he is very uncomfortable with the topic of "Death". Over the years, the death of my grand parents, uncles and auntie had a very deep impact to him, he always worry if he is the next to face death.He often suspect that his body is unhealthy or suspects himself suffering by seriously illness, and also afraid of pass away during a night of sleep. Although I am a Chinese physician, but treating a person with mental problem isn't an easy task for me. I hope by arranging a trip for him, this will cheer him up a little bit and bring some hope for him.
这两年的行医过程中，接触到不少对晚年抱着比较负面想法的老病人。我们是很难能够理解他们的内心世界，毕竟沟通是需要时间及力气的。我的身边也有一些朋友只愿望与同龄或年轻人交朋友，他们终日吃喝玩乐，不照顾身体，也没有时间去关心家里的老人，他们的生活态度好象可以以后不会有老弱病残死的一天，可以生活自理。我觉得我们也许要问一问自己：庆祝母亲节／父亲节真的需要花大钱买贵重的礼物给长辈吗？孝心是用千金来打造的吗？我们可否知道他们要的是什么？
During my practical training for the last two years, I had seen many senior patients have a lot of negative thoughts about their future. It is difficult to really understand what is insides their heart, because it takes time and effort to communicate with them. I have some friends who only desire to make friends with people around their ages or younger than them, they always like to live a youngful lifestyle, they also very afraid of spending time of taking care of the elderly. May be they just can not face the reality that they also in the process of aging, they don't want to see, or know anything about becoming old and need the care of others.
I think we may have to ask ourselves: Do we really need to spend a lot of money for an expensive gifts for our parents in Mother's Day / Father's Day? What is filial make of ? Are we buying something they really want?
我们的生命是父母所给的，因此在我们的细胞核里的DNA也就记录了我们的外表、身体特徵、内脏功能、性格、思维及行为都是遗传自父母亲的。在圣经箴言1:8-9说：〝我儿，要听你父亲的训诲，不可离弃你母亲的法则。因为这要作为你头上的华冠，项上的金链。〞这两段金句表面上是叫我们要听从父母亲的教诲，其实圣经在某种层次上告诉我们父母亲一生之中所经历的一切事物，就连身为他们的子女们也会在某种程度上走上类似他们的人生写照。父母亲如果一见到我们快要做出像他们当年那样愚蠢的事件时，他们一定会给我们劝告。为什么会这样？因为在某种程度上，我们的性格、思维及行为必定与父母亲相吻合。总之， 这个答案不容易说清楚，都是DNA的秘密。 在行医过程中，我透过观察掌纹，发现血缘关系相近的人，手上的掌纹表现得非常相似，甚至如出一辙。因此，掌纹是具有遗传性的，包含正常纹和病理纹的遗传。父母亲有怎么样的体质、患上怎么样的疾病及寿命的长短也与你息息相关，因为有一天，你也会患上与他们相同的疾病。
Our life is given by the parents, our appearance, physical characteristics, internal organs function, personality, thinking and behavior are inherited from parents. In the Bible, Proverbs 1:8-9: "Listen, my son, to your father's instruction. They will be a garland to grace your head." These sentences is apparently asking us to follow the teachings of parents, because we will go through similar life situation like what our parents gone through. The similarity of our personality, thinking and behavior are controlled by DNA, to a certain extent, we look like our parents and our parents also look like us. When our parents see us making a mistake that they might be experienced similar situation during their younger time, he will immediately give us some advice and guidance. In short, the answer is not easy to make it clear that is the secrets of DNA.
In the process of treating patient, I observed the palm line to find the underlying health problems. I notice that there is a commonality in people who have same blood relationship, the palm lines are very similar, even identical. Therefore, the palm line is the form of genetic pattern, including normal and pathological patterns of genetic patterns. Therefore the type of constitution, diseases or the length of life of your parents are closely related with you, because one day you might suffer the same disease with them.
所以，我觉得我们有必要反思，我们在日常生活中是不是麻木地对待父母亲呢？我觉得我们这一代好象十分关心自已的事，多过关心周围的人。小时候，我们都是在很多长辈的爱心呵责下成长的，你是否还记得那温暖的爱呢？我们渐渐地长大后，也不晓得为什么变得那么地冷酷无情，我们筑起自己的围墙，我们的爱变得很小；我们变得有选择性地爱某一些人；变得恨心起来，反而要永远地憎恨一个人，眼里绝对容不下一粒沙；我们的笑容也开始变得僵硬与虚伪，因为我们的内心没有了爱，这好比我们的眼睛瞎了，看不到光。如果我们还是不能够用爱照亮别人，当我们年迈时，我们不必妄想别人也自动用爱照亮你，陪伴你走完人生的最后阶段。
So, I think we need to reflect in our daily lives is our parents being treat well? I feel like our generation is very concerned about their own affairs, more than concerned about the people around them. During our childhood, we grow up in the love and care of the elders, and do you still remember the warmth of love? When we gradually grow up, we become so callous that we build our own walls, our love become so mean; we only select certain people to love; when thing went wrong, we turn up to hate a person forever, it seem like absolutely not tolerate a grain of sand in the eye; our smile began to become rigid and hypocritical, because our hearts just don't have a place for love, it just like our eyes become blind that we can not see the light anymore. If we don't want to light up someone life with love, we will have to walk alone in the final stages of our life, because none really want to light up our life because we always being selfish.
母亲节、父亲节来临前，希望我们与自己父母亲庆祝之余，也不要忘了一些长辈，他们也曾经用爱照亮我们的路途，我们也应该关心他们才对。最后祝大家母亲节及父亲节蒙恩。
Before the celebration of Mother's Day and Father's Day, I hope we will also remember some of our elders, they have also illuminated our journey with love, we should also care about them. Finally I wish you all graceful in the coming Mother's Day and Father's Day.
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